new_slang
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posted on 03-19-2010 at 15:50 |
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Always Fighting
I am wondering if anyone has advice for married couples who are always bickering and fighting about pointless things.
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lero72
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posted on 04-06-2010 at 12:05 |
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Yes, we are here
We do fighting with my husband about everything. Even I could say that we do have nothing to speak normally about. I really try hard to be please for him. I still try to love him even he don't make me happy at all..
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lero72
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posted on 04-06-2010 at 12:18 |
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Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus: The Classic Guide to Understanding the Opposite Sex
May be this book can help you. I just bought it on Amazon. Can't wait to read. Hope, if it is not going to help for both of us to be good enough for each other, but probably will help me to feel myself better. By knowing that we are just different creatures. Not only me feel as peace of shit. Or "COO-COO" person as my husband used to say about me.
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new_slang
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posted on 04-07-2010 at 10:10 |
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Talking
Thank you for your reply,
Do you every try to confront your husband about his behavior?
I want to talk with my wife about what is happening, but every time I try she just shuts down or we start fighting and she leaves the room.
I don't even know how to begin a conveesation.
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Crooked55
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posted on 04-22-2010 at 11:24 |
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be honest
its always hard to be the big person in that situation, but if you want things to smooth over you probly hav to
i was stuck in that cycle of fighting, leaving the room and silence for hours, maybe days and then things would be okay for a while but of course some little argument turns into a huge war and we end up giving each other the silent treatment again and again
once i just choked back my pride and confronted her and made it clear that things needed to change, i could see it in her eyes that she knew what i was talking about and that i was right
there is always a reason that you guys came together and love eachother in the 1st place so it just takes one of you to step up and acknolege that there is a problem
you both know its there but you're living in denial, honesty is key
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scharlie
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posted on 05-11-2010 at 23:01 |
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answer to your query
Yes i know and I have seen couples fighting on pointless issues. that may be because of financial crisis, personal problems such as thinking difference or may be less sexual satisfaction. there could be many hidden reason which can create anger between the two in the sub conscious mind.
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woodrobbinson007
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posted on 02-25-2012 at 01:39 |
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just have a deep communication with he/her. if it still doesn't work, then get divorced. and pursuit your soulmate. everyone has the right to pursuit the happiness.
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jonathan2340
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posted on 06-16-2012 at 04:37 |
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if you are fighting everyday then it is not possible to live together under one roof. You should be divorced as soon as possible otherwise it will be difficult to you and to your family. Thanks.............
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HectorPriamedes
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posted on 12-17-2012 at 09:27 |
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There is Hope!
The advice about getting divorced is very wrong and very destructive to marriages. Every married couple goes through times of more frequent fighting, and these are normal and they WILL pass into better days. The key is to GROW TOGETHER THROUGH difficult times and struggles.. According to the person who is recommending divorce, then every single married couple in the world should get a divorce when they experience these phases?? If that advice were followed, every single person in the world would have divorced parents. Let's not try to take out our personal frustrations on others' marriages please. No more destructive comments as people are coming to this forum for help.
If you are in fact married then you married that person for a reason. The best book / DVD I have ever seen about how to balance and fix your marriage is
How to Speak Your Spouse's Language by H. Norman Wright
If you have NOT gotten married yet, then this is the book to get:
Before You Say 'I Do' by H. Norman Wright and Wes Roberts
In both situations it helps to have BOTH spouses go through the book and questions together.m there are also DVDs but that is up to you.
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Crooked55
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posted on 12-28-2012 at 10:10 |
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not correct
That is terrible advice, but it kind of seems like you are just posting that to spam the forum with that book and DVD.
Either way, it's not healthy to just jump right into a divorce. But it's also unhealthy to just stay in a marriage "because you got married for a reason." If you have discovered that you are not a compatible couple and have tried ways to help your marriage without success, divorce could potentially be an option. Saying it's just out of the question is setting yourself up to trap yourself in a relationship you dont' want to be in.
Obviously you should work on the relationship, figure out WHY there are so many problems. That way, you will be able to realize if its just some fixable issue, or a long term problem that cant be fixed.
Communication is key.
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